I know a young and successful entrepreneur whose mother told for the longest time that she would not amount to anything but would get pregnant early and throw away her future.
She constantly heard it being said to her that she was a bad example to her younger siblings and that her mum wished she had never brought her into her home when she remarried.
Maya (the lady in question) was born as a result of her mother’s first unhappy marriage and perhaps that was the reason she became a victim of all that emotional abuse.
She however always felt it in her heart that she was going to be a great person, well-known in society and that she became.
When asked how she managed to see a picture so beautiful and totally different from the one painted by her mum she replied, “Of course I was deeply hurt by the daily negative words but with time I learned to tone down her voice.
It took me convincing myself that the unkind things said to me were untrue to finally succeed in phasing them out of my imagination”
Why parents, guardians, and sometimes siblings feel the need to crush the very people they should be supporting is a broad topic worth thoroughly researching but reality shows that for different reasons they do.
You may have had first-hand experience of such down-talking that got you so demotivated you stopped trying to become the success you initially thought you could be.
Maybe you even saw yourself slowly fit into the ugly mold they crafted for you with their words but there is good news for you: you can learn to silence the noise that was administered into your mind which later began to affect your imagination.
You can learn instead to create your beat and begin to dance to the tune you enjoy.
Dare to challenge the soundness of the things you have been told by other people.
Most people voice their opinions coming from biased perspectives, why then would you let your life be shaped by these?
You have the final say concerning the direction your life takes and your destiny?
In the fight to realize the picture you have of yourself and your future, you need to discard all other images that don’t align with your belief. Decide what your truth is and count all contradicting statements as lies.
Sometimes the problem causing you to lean so much on what other people say to you is lack of confidence or thinking too highly of them than you should.
When you believe they are wiser, more observant, or better judges of character then it follows that you begin to take what they say as true.
Why don’t you believe yourself to be those things instead? Why won’t you take on a new mentality that assumes that you are powerful, wise, and certain of what you want in life?
Noise may come from within sometimes. Some people are champions at taking shots at themselves!
If that is you then now is the time to stop.
You can consciously decide what you entertain in your thoughts and what needs to be fired from them immediately.
If for example you are working out and eating healthy so that you lose weight and yet daily you tell yourself that you are fat and unattractive then you are shooting yourself in the foot.
Indeed it may be that you aren’t even aware of the disempowering thoughts and words you have about yourself because you have repeated them enough times that they have somehow become a part of you.
Take time today to assess the thoughts you have of yourself and actively discard all the negative ones.
Be merciless when it comes to shutting out all the noise within and without.
Have you ever tried to listen to a radio station a couple of Hertz out of its perfect frequency?
The unwanted noise competing with the ‘good’ noise you wanted to hear was agitating, wasn’t it? Increasing the volume didn’t help either because it made the noise louder as well.
It is the same thing in your life. You need to silence the noise that competes with the melody of your dreams.
This, like most things in life, is a process.
Your diligence determines your speed in the sense that if you chase away a thousand negative thoughts meant to cripple and dissuade you from running your race today, tomorrow you may need to cast away nine hundred and ninety such thoughts.
The following day they would become less as your mind got accustomed to the new way of thinking that is positive and progressive.
You cannot give up until you get to that place where the dominating notions are positive.
Consistently declare the goodness you want to see in your life even when negativity stares you in the eye.
Do not be intimidated.
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