Today I came across an interesting Article on negative Self Talk.
My Take on the Article
Whether it’s feeling bad about not hitting goals or feeling your not picking a Skill Set up as Quickly as others.
Do you find yourself saying I will never figure this out?
Nothing is working out I may as well Quit Trying.
I am too old to figure it all out.
Studies do show Changing negative Dialogue Is needed to develop a more Productive Energy.
If you are guilty of Calling yourself Names or Don’t Stretch yourself to try something new for fear of failure, here’s how to deal with your Negative Thoughts.
1. Recognize Your Negative Thoughts
So if you have Negative thoughts like I am too old, too fat or I will not be successful because _____Fill in the Blank.
Many of your thoughts are automatic. They just pop into your head without any conscious effort.
Evaluate your thoughts so you can recognize thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, or irrational.
2. Look for Evidence That Your Thought Is True
Just because you think something doesn’t make it true.
“What’s the evidence this is true?”
Sticking with The I am Too old example.
You may be slower to grasp some of today’s Technology,
Skillsets are taking you a long time to master.
3. Look for the Evidence Your Thought Isn’t True
Then, create a list of reasons why your thought might not be true.
Although you have not developed a level of competency you were hoping for yet your courage to keep going is moving you forward.
If you struggle to find evidence–which is common when your emotions run high–ask yourself, “What would I say to a friend who had this problem?” If your co-worker said, “I’m not improving as hard as I try. ,” you’d likely be able to find some kind words to help the situation, so be nice to yourself.
4. Reframe Your Thought Into Something More Realistic
Once you’ve looked at the evidence on both sides of the equation, develop a more realistic statement.
Telling yourself, I am moving forward daily on goals and I learn something new Every day.
5. Ask Yourself How Bad Would It Be If Your Thoughts Were True?
Ask yourself, “How bad is it really if it takes me longer to gain this skill.” Then, spend a few minutes thinking how you’d respond.
I wanted to have the right skills to achieve my goals in Business and so what if it takes longer. If it is going to take 1yr or more isn’t it worth the Journey.
Practice Replacing Negative Self-Talk
You might never get rid of your negative self-talk completely–and that’s fine.
The more you practice replacing your negative self-talk the better you will get at it.
Beating yourself up Is never a Good Thing.
More from Inc.
https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/how-to-deal-with-your-negative-self-talk-so-you-can-stop-beating-yourself-up-dragging-yourself-down.html