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Burnout Experienced More by People Pleasers

A people pleaser is someone who wants the people around them to always be happy. Sometimes people pleasers will become so invested in ensuring the satisfaction and happiness of those around them that they become intrusive pests, and other times they become a reliable workhorse.

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One thing people pleasures never become is the successful leader that they dreamed of becoming before becoming burned out. To put it bluntly, if you want to avoid burnout, it’s time to stop being a people pleaser. There is no reward for being a people pleaser, but remember, it doesn’t mean you have to let go of your humanity; you just have to learn to recognize when it’s too much.

 

You Don’t Have to Do It

 

You really cannot do everything. Small business owners often think that they’re supposed to do everything, especially if they have an internet business. It makes sense to hire help if you own bricks and mortar business, but it’s a harder sale for someone working from home as a digital marketer, coach, or other professions.

 

But the fact is, not only do you not have to do everything, you should not do everything. No CEO ever does all their own work. No, successful CEOs and business owners come up with the ideas and pass tasks on to experts who churn the ideas out fast due to their expertise. Due to that, they tend to make more money without burnout.

 

Know Your Mission in Life

 

You must understand what your overall life goals are. You can be general in terms of the goals for your entire life, such as “not contributing to environmental pollution” or “not consuming animal products” or “saving time on content marketing for customers and clients.” If you know the goal, you can ensure that the actions you take are getting you closer to that goal or not.

 

Learn to Say Yes Slowly

 

When someone asks something new of you, don’t say yes or no. Say that you’ll think about it and give them a time when you’ll get back to them if they cannot wait then the answer defaults to no without you ever having to say no. Evaluate the tasks that you will need to be successful in the project and say yes only if it really aligns with your principles, morals, values, and mission.

 

Set Boundaries Using Time

 

One way to say yes more without getting burned out is to compartmentalize and schedule your time better. For example, if you really do want to help feed the homeless, but you’re strapped for time, just let the organization know that you can either donate money or you can spend from 11 am until 2 pm once a week only. Remember that doing something in conjunction with others adds up and that you don’t have to take on every project or cause on your own by yourself. Set time boundaries and do a little, and it’s enough.

 

Drop Manipulators from Your Life

 

Everyone has someone in their life that will try to make them feel guilty for not doing what they want you to do. If you have someone like that in your life who revolts when you reclaim your time, it’s time to let them go from your life. This is not something that is mean, or that has to be announced just slowly separate yourself from that situation by saying no.

 

Keep Your Empathy Intact

 

When you start learning to stand up for yourself, and your own time, it can begin to feel as if you don’t care about others to yourself. You are used to being the one who helps everyone and is always available, and it will feel hard at first. But realize if you are cognizant of putting your health first, your principles, morals, and values next and keep the impact of your actions, I mind you’ll be just fine.

 

You Can’t Be Everything to Everyone

 

It’s just a fact of life that you’re only one person with limited time just like everyone else. There is no prize for ruining your life, or health, to be everything to everyone. Plus, you’ll fail because it’s impossible. Instead, be everything to yourself and kind to everyone else without laying down your life for them.

 

Once you accept that you don’t have to be a people pleaser to be a kind, caring human being, it will become much easier for you to set the boundaries you need to set in order to become successful in your business, your job, and your relationships.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How to Accept Failure and Mistakes

No matter how well you plan or implement, sometimes things aren’t going to work out as you expected. Sometimes you’re going to make mistakes, but sometimes you’re going to experience failure due to nothing you have done. However, it happens, and due to that, it’s essential to learn how to accept failure and mistakes as part of life and not the end of the world.

 

Feel Your Feelings

 

One thing to realize upfront is that your feelings are perfect and are ‘allowed’ no matter what. No one has a right to tell you not to feel a certain way. However, understand that your own thoughts are what make you feel something. If you can change the way you think of something, you may be able to affect how you feel about it too.

 

Be Kind to Yourself

 

There is a vast difference between the notion of being nice and that of being kind. When you are kind, you are mindful of the impact your thoughts and actions have on yourself and others. Think and do kind things, and you’ll end up a happier, healthier person who is not at risk for burnout.

 

Acknowledge Your Own Mistakes

 

When you do make a mistake, it’s imperative that you accept responsibility for your actions that lead to the failure but not the things you cannot control. For example, if you missed a deadline because you binge-watched a new TV show, that’s on you. But, if you missed a deadline because you were sick, that’s not on you.

 

Prepare Yourself Mentally for Failure

 

Everyone makes mistakes no matter what, and everyone falls short of their goals. This is normal life. If you don’t fail sometimes, it’s likely you’re not even pushing yourself hard enough. Everyone cannot be number one every time, and that includes you. Instead, focus on your effort in proper goal setting to help you avoid failing for that reason.

 

Learn from The Failure or Mistake

 

When you do make a mistake or a project or idea fails instead of beating yourself up, figure out what you can learn from the situation. For example, most failures start from day one with goal setting. How could you do this over again differently and get a better outcome? Even if you can’t actually get a do-over, it’s good to explore the reasons.

 

Develop a Plan for Moving Forward

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Once you’ve examined the mistakes you made and figured out why you failed, it’s time to create a plan to move forward. If you can do everything over again, that’s great, but if you can’t, learn from it and move on.

 

When you take the time to learn from your failure and mistakes, you can actually avoid making the same one twice. When you avoid making the same mistakes again, you will improve your life exponentially as you grow and improve over time. When you keep an open mind about failure and errors, you’ll find that you start being more realistic about the goals you set, the actions you take, and the way you view failure and success.

 

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Tips to Help You Practice Positive Thinking

Sometimes you might think that the whole focus the world has today on thinking positively is crazy, but the truth is when you can see the good things in the world before you see the bad you’re going to be a happier, healthier, more productive person who is less prone to burnout than the next.

 

These tips will help you practice more positive thinking without turning you into an unempathetic monster. After all, you probably know one of those toxically positive people who cannot ever accept that sometimes people have bad days. You don’t want to be that person, but you also don’t want to swim in the negativity. Let’s get started.

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Focus on The Good Things

 

There is always at least one good thing happening, even when everything else seems horrific. Even during the worst of times, humans can see the good. Find just one good thing to focus on when times are hard to help you avoid burnout.

 

Practice Daily Gratitude

 

Set up a gratitude journal and keep notes of the good things that happen to you each day. Then at night before you go to bed, read the positive things you felt and experienced throughout the day so that you go to sleep with the good on your mind.

 

Let Yourself Laugh

 

Sometimes things go to heck and back. It’s okay. Learn to see the humorous side of it. Did you have a Zoom chat with your colleagues only to realize that your bra was showing the entire time, or you had spinach in your teeth? Honestly, everyone is human, so it’s okay if this happened, laugh at it, and make fun of yourself.

 

Spend More Time with Positive People

 

As they say, “birds of a feather flock together” if you want to be happier and more successful hang around happier, more successful people. When you hang out with negative people, it’s going to rub off on you and contribute to stress and potentially lead to burnout.

 

Avoid Toxic Positivity

 

While you do want to focus on the positive, don’t be toxically positive. They think any measure of sadness or negative expression is a sign of permanent negativity. For example, if your mom died, it’s okay to be sad. You don’t have to focus on the good right now. You can focus on the horrific loss right now. Later you can focus on how you’ll live your life without her in a positive way.

 

Identify Areas of Negativity You can Fix

 

Take some time to note the things you tend to react negatively toward. For example, if you hate your schedule to be interrupted, find ways not to have it interrupted. Set boundaries for yourself and others. If you tend to get ‘hangry’ if you don’t eat on time, try to schedule your day so you can eat on time to avoid that negative time.

 

Learn from Failure

 

Everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes people fail even if they did everything to plan. However, there really is no failure if you learn from mistakes. Learn how you went wrong and how you can avoid it in the future.

 

Focus on Now

 

The more you can focus on the present, the better your life will become. Yes, you do have to plan for the future, but you have to do the tasks today that build on your future. Don’t become stagnant, keep acting today.

 

It’s okay to feel negative sometimes. It’s okay not to have a perfect day. The truth is, how you pick yourself up after a bad spell is proof of your resiliency and that resilience is what will protect you from burnout.

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A Job Done is Worth a Reward

 

When you become a parent, or if you’re already a parent, you know that reward systems really work to help change the behavior of a child. In fact, studies show that rewards win out against punishment for most children in terms of successfully changing a child’s behavior.

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Guess what? The idea of rewards for a job done works for adults too, and what’s more, rewards don’t have to be something someone else sets up. You can set up a reward system for yourself that motivates you and helps you get more done every single day.

 

Not only is a reward system fun, but it really works. To get started, you’ll want to follow these steps.

 

  • Set Your Goals
  • Set Up the Time Period Between Rewards
  • Choose the Rewards in Advance
  • Celebrate Receiving Your Rewards
  • Keep Doing It

 

Set Your Goals

 

The very first thing you have to know is what your goals are and what signifies ‘done’ for the sake of the rewards. State your goals and specifically spell out what constitutes done for the purpose of the prize. Learn about how to set SMART goals to ensure you get this part right.

 

Determine How Often You’ll Reward Yourself

 

You can set up as many rewards as you want to. For example, if you get up in the morning and do your 20-minute fast walk before your coffee as planned, you can choose a reward such as getting to spend a few minutes doing something you genuinely enjoy, like spending some downtime reading a good book.

 

Choose the Rewards in Advance

 

As you set up your reward system, you’ll want to know exactly what the reward will be for each activity you’re going to reward yourself for. There is no right or wrong reward as long as the reward motivates you and does not roadblock you. For example, don’t reward yourself with something dangerous or unhealthy. Set up some small ones for each day and some bigger ones for longer-term goals.

 

Celebrate Receiving Your Reward

 

There is more to the reward than the thing itself. It’s also the idea that you finished, which should also feel significant to you. When you meet a goal, it feels good by itself too, so spend some time being happy and thankful about that without the reward but then go ahead and brag to yourself about the fun or the experience of the reward.

 

Finally, don’t give up. Keep going. Don’t try it for just a month and then give up. Try your system out for at least a year to find out if it really works for you or not.

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